Meh. I don’t think that’s always the case.
Here’s what I think: I think we’re so lazy. I think we watch out for ourselves and then if there’s effort left over, we move on to others. I think we like to be comfortable and we cringe when making an effort means stepping outside that comfort zone. I think we need to get over it.
Yesterday Alice said, “Do you think it would be really hard to not have a dad on Father’s Day? Like “H”? I think that would be so sad because her dad died.”
“Yeah, Alice, I think that’ d be really, really hard. I also think she’d like to hear from you today so that she knows she has a friend who knows how hard it would be.”
So Alice called “H.” And hearing their 7 year old conversation taught me a lot. It was short and sweet and the effort it took for Alice to do it was worth it. The conversation went like this:
A: Hi, it’s Alice. Yeah, Alice.
H: Hi Alice!
A: Hi, H. I was just thinking that today must be really hard for you.
H: Yeah. It is.
A: And that I’m so sorry your dad died and it might be sad for you today on Father’s Day.
H: Yeah, I’m sad.
A: I love you as a friend and I’m happy we’re friends.
H: Me too.
A: I can’t wait to see you tomorrow.
H: Me too. Bye Alice!
A: Bye, H!
And that was that. She rehearsed it because she didn’t want to “mess up.” She got tears in her eyes when she rehearsed it because she loves her friend. She was uncomfortable but she didn’t really care about that. She did it anyway.