If our life is described as one long day, I’d say this at the end of it.
Today, Danny and I have been married for nine years and it’s been pretty amazing.
Not long after we started dating, I knew that I was meant to be with Dan. To anyone else who is 16 and might say this, I’d probably say they are just ridiculous and young and have no idea what they are talking about. But I totally knew.
He didn’t know right away — because he was a 16 year old boy. He was into skateboarding and hanging out with friends, doing things that probably he shouldn’t have been doing. And I followed him around like a puppy. I’d go along with whatever he and his pals did over anything my friends asked me to do any day. I did it because I knew. How crazy and dumb does this all sound? I know it. But it’s true.
And then we got pregnant between our freshman and sophomore years of college. And I was scared that was it – that he wasn’t going to want to change his entire life. His whole plan. He’d gone away to college and liked it. He met a lot of fun people and I don’t think it was ever in his plan to move back home after just starting that adventure. I made it very clear to him that he didn’t have to.
But he changed his plans. And I changed mine. And our plans turned into just a plan. And our tiny little family grew and grew and now, 9 years into marriage and 13 years into togetherness…I still know. He’s it.
There are lots of days when he does something that drives me absolutely insane or he says something insensitive. And just as many days that I’m bossy and rude and am a pain in his ass. But so many more days (like tons more) when life is really beautiful. And all the time when life is happening around us, we tell each other how lucky we are. And how we kinda can’t believe it.
Like…this is our life.
And I think if you had told a 16 year old Danny that he’d have 6 kids before he turned 30 he would laugh in your face and maybe punch you, too. But love is magic and it’s weird and it’s ours. And here we are.
Happy Anniversary, Danny — I think you’re swell.